Safety Strategies for Women of All Ages
Through a Rapist’s Eyes (Serious).
This is essential information for women of ALL ages.
Source: The Conversation
A number of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on which they look for in a potential victim and here are a few interesting facts:
The very first thing men look for in a possible victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to visit following a woman having a ponytail, bun, braid or any other hair style that may be easily grabbed. They’re also likely to pursue a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are often observed targets.
The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for a woman whose clothes are easy to remove quickly. Most of them carry scissors around specifically to cut clothing.
They also search for women on their own cell phone, looking through their purse, or doing other activities while walking because they are off-guard and can be easily overpowered.
Men are most likely to attack & rape in the early morning, between 5: 00a.m. and eight:30a.m.
The number one place women are abducted from attacked is grocery store parking lots. # 2: is office-parking lots or garages. Number three: is public restroom.
The thing about these men is they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to another location where they don’t need to bother about getting caught.
Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5 year sentence but rape having a weapon is 15-20 years.
If you put up any kind of a battle at all, they get discouraged since it only requires a minute or two for them to realize that pursuing you aren’t worthwhile since it will be time-consuming.
These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas, or any other similar objects you can use from a distance, within their hands.
Keys aren’t a deterrent as you have to get really close to the attacker to use them like a weapon. So, the concept would be to convince this option you’re not worth it.
Several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If a person is following behind yourself on a street or perhaps in a garage or along with you within an elevator or stairwell, look them hard and get them an issue, like what time is it, or make general small talk: “I can’t believe that it is so cold out here,” “we’re in for a bad winter.” Now you’ve seen their face and may identify these questions line-up; you lose appeal as a target.
If someone is originating toward you, hold out both hands in front of you and yell STOP or STAY BACK! The majority of the rapists this man spoke with say they’d leave a lady alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to battle back. Again, they’re looking for an EASY target.
If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate from it and carries it with him wherever he goes), yell I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it is a deterrent.
If someone grabs you, you can’t beat all of them with strength but you can by outsmarting him or her. If you are grabbed around waist from the behind, pinch the attacker either underneath the arm (between your elbow and armpit) or perhaps in top of the inner thigh very difficult. One woman inside a class this person taught told him she used the under arm pinch on the guy who had been trying to date rape her and am upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands – the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as possible stand it – it hurts.
After the initial hit, always Choose the GROIN. I understand from the particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy’s parts it is extremely painful. You may think that you’ll anger the man making him wish to hurt you more, however the thing these rapists told our instructor is they desire a woman who will not cause a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble and he’s out of there.
When the guy puts his hands your decision, grab his first couple of fingers and bend it well so far as possible with just as much pressure pushing recorded on them as you possibly can. The instructor made it happen in my experience without using much pressure, and I ended up on my small knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.
Of course the things we always hear still apply. Continually be aware of your surroundings, take someone along with you if you’re able to and if the thing is any odd behavior, don’t write it off, and opt for your instincts!!!
You may feel just a little silly at the time, but you’d feel much worse when the guy really was trouble.
Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow may be the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do!
Learned this from a tourist guide in New Orleans. If a robber requests your bank account and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it from you…. chances are that he’s more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you, and that he goes for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD Within the OTHER DIRECTION!
If you are ever thrown in to the trunk of a car, remove the rear tail lights and sticks your arm the hole and begin waving like crazy. The motive force won’t help you, but everyone else will. It has saved lives.
Women tend to enter into their cars after shopping, eating, working, etc., and merely sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc.) DON’T DO THIS! The predator is going to be watching you, and this is an ideal opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side, put a gun to your head, and let you know what to do. Once you GET INTO Your vehicle, LOCK THE DOORS AND LEAVE.
If someone is in the car having a gun for your head Don’t Drive away, repeat: Don’t DRIVE OFF! Instead gun the engine and speed into anything, wrecking the vehicle. Your Air Bag will save you. If the person is within the back seat they’ll obtain the worst from it. When the car crashes bail out and run. It is better than having them find the body inside a remote location.
A few notes about engaging in your car inside a parking area or parking garage:
- Be aware: look around you, consider your car, at the passenger side floor, and in the rear seat.
- If you’re parked alongside a big van, enter your vehicle in the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them to their vans as the women are attempting to enter into their cars.
- Look in the car parked around the driver’s side of the vehicle, and the passenger side. If your male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and obtain a guard/policeman just to walk you back out.
IT Is definitely Easier to Be secure THAN SORRY. (And paranoid than dead.)
ALWAYS go ahead and take elevator rather than the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot. This is also true during the night!)
If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times. As well as then, it probably Won’t be a vital organ. RUN, preferably in a zigzag pattern!
As women, we’re always trying to be sympathetic: STOP! It may get you raped or killed. Ted Bundy, the murderer, was a good-looking, well-educated man, who ALWAYS played around the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked “for help” into his vehicle or with his vehicle, that is as he abducted his next victim.
Another Safety Point: Someone just explained that her friend heard a crying baby on her behalf porch the night before last, and she known as the police since it was late and she thought it was weird. Law enforcement informed her “Anything you do, Don’t open the door.”
The lady then asserted it seemed like the infant had crawled near a window, and she was worried it would crawl towards the street and get run over. The policeman said, “Finances one on the way, whatever you do, DO NOT open the doorway.” He informed her that they think a murderer includes a baby’s cry recorded and uses it to coax women from their homes thinking that someone delivered an infant. He explained they haven’t yet verified it, but have experienced several calls by women saying that they hear baby’s cries outside their doors when they’re home alone during the night.
Please pass this on and don’t open the doorway for any crying baby. This should be given serious attention since the Crying Baby theory was mentioned on America’s Popular, once they profiled the serial killer in Louisiana.
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