How to Make a Long Distance Relation Work Its Way to Marriage
“Long distance relationships never work!” We hear this too often, but this is a big faux. In fact, you might want to call it a myth because there is no evidence to support this theory.
If it were true, then the statistical figures we have would not be this staggering:
In the US, 14 million couples are in a long distance relationship right now! There are 3.75 million married couples living in a long distance relationship. 32.5% of these long distance relationships happen in college.
At least, 75% of engaged couples have been through several years of a long distance relationship pre-engagement. Approximately 10% of all marriages began as long distance relationships.
Let’s begin by acknowledging the fact that no one gets into a long distance relationship willingly. Sometimes, things just happen! At most times, both or any one of the people involved in a romantic relationship is working, and move across the country.
Here are some things you need to be prepared for, because knowing what to expect is the key to the success of your long distance relationship and it will end in marriage.
- Things may not always work as you plan: There may be time zone differences, logistical issues like transportation problems, poor internet connection or lack of accessibility, and getting enough time to call might always be a problem. You two need to come to an agreement on when and how you can keep in touch on a daily basis, but be ready for setbacks. There will be problems. It is inevitable! Nevertheless, whenever you get together, cherish it and make the most of it.
- Do not listen to negative people: You need to surround yourself with people who understand your feelings and are supportive. They should be encouraging so that you can endure the pressure and disappointments that come with a long distance relationship. Surrounding yourself with people who instill more doubts in you and who make you anxious is your worst mistake.
- You cannot make physical contact: Sometimes, you need a hug, cuddles, hold hands and maybe the physical presence of your loved one, but expecting them to turn up whenever you need them is your mistake. Remember that they are far from you and they have a life there, even though you are the greatest and most important part of it. If they can come over regularly, they will, if not then you need to be fine with knowing they are far from your reach. Nonetheless, you can be caring and loving via emails, calls and text messages.
- Your Partner will be with other people: Expecting them to not socialize and stay away from other activities because you are not with them is impractical. They will need to socialize because an idle mind will make them anxious about not being with you.
- Trust, patience, and loyalty are everything: The main ingredient of a lasting and faithful relationship is being able to trust one another and being loyal to one another. Without this, there is no hope for ANY relationship, not just long distance ones. Moreover, patience is very important, do not lose hope and do not get anxious or frustrated enough to do something hurtful. With time, everything works out positively!
By sticking to these guidelines, it’s just a matter of time before you get married to the love of your life. If you have an experience worth sharing to help people succeed with their long-term relationship, we would love for you to share it with us.