Plus Size Dating: Tips for Navigating Those Dangerous Curves
Dating today is very different today compared to fifteen to twenty years ago. Many Plus sized women report they are finding it easier to find love in these modern times compared to twenty years ago. This could be due to social media and online dating which allows men and women to meet potential love interests based on their individual attraction preferences.
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Even though the dating scene has become more hospitable, there are still some unique challenges which plus size women face regularly.
Challenges to Plus Size Dating
- Low Self-Esteem – Many big beautiful women experience challenges with dating, finding it difficult to believe that guys are interested in dating them. This trend tends to begin early, as early as the teenaged, high school years when these gorgeous gals develop into their womanly curves. Older men tend to be mature enough to be interested in curvy girls, but those older fellows think they can prey upon the naïve nature of young girls who have developed early. The remedy to this is to be cautious! Don’t rush into dating the first guy who shows interest.
- The Idea That “Big Girls Are Easy” – Several big girls have negative dating experiences as early as high school when they meet guys who assume a girl’s negative self-image equates to a easy sex. After all, every woman interprets sex as love, right? Wrong! Overcome this stereotype by holding yourself, and your potential dates to a higher standard of respect. You may be a big lady, but you’re still a lady, and that means you’re worth better treatment.
- Dating Big Women is a Preference, Not a Fetish – Heavy women are not a new creation by any stretch of the imagination, even if the media is just now coming around to celebrating the beauty of diversity. With so much media attention devoted to plus size women, their curves, and ultra-feminine beauty, it has a tendency to come across as a trendy fetish-style bandwagon to hop upon. Fact is, everyone has a dating preference and an idea of what’s attractive to them, the same is true when it comes to dating curvy girls. Short, tall, round, flat, you name it, someone finds it attractive. If you’ve got a fellow chasing your skirt just because he wants to cross something off his bucket list, send him packing. Dating someone that genuinely prefers big girls is so much more satisfying, because they know how to appreciate you and make you feel adored.
- Difference in Private And Public Acceptance – Guys suffer from low self-esteem too. They love a curvy girl’s personality and love to chill in secret, at home, beyond the prying eyes of friends and society. But when it comes to acknowledging her in public that’s where things fall short. One way to avoid this is to be up front with a guy in the beginning, if he’s not able to enjoy your company in all circumstances then he’s not really worthy of enjoying your company. You deserve better, don’t settle for less.
Seeing the Big Picture
Girlfriend, you deserve great things for no other reason than you are worthy. Set the standard for the kind of lover you want in your life, and remember that at the end of the day it’s not about size.
There’s someone out there for everyone. Confidence is key! Dating is difficult for women of all sizes, especially if you’re suffering from low self-confidence.
Men love women of all shapes and sizes, so love yourself and your size. When you love yourself for who you are, first and foremost, men can’t help but find that attractive and want to get to know you better.
Now I want to hear from you! Regardless of your size, thick or thin, have you experienced some of these challenges? How did you overcome them? Get into the discussion in the comments below!